The surrender only works if there’s something to surrender to, and what happens when that prior self never fully forms is a question I don’t think we’ve reckoned with yet. That day at lunch genuinely unsettled me. It was both a wake up call and a glimmer of hope at the same time.
Glad to have come across this post!
The line that kinda shook me (because it feels so true): “for children forming now, there may be no prior self to surrender.”
I think having these reference points, like your son displayed that day in Chipotle, is only going to get more and more important. ❤️
The surrender only works if there’s something to surrender to, and what happens when that prior self never fully forms is a question I don’t think we’ve reckoned with yet. That day at lunch genuinely unsettled me. It was both a wake up call and a glimmer of hope at the same time.
I completely agree, I don't think we've reckoned with it either. Which is why I'm so glad writers like you are bringing it up ♡♡♡